Here's the link: http://www.muthamagazine.com/2020/07/that-is-who-you-are/?fbclid=IwAR0Wsi7DIhD0LGYzh5Jhh-CFlg7yXup2edwOHX27xTJTtoiq_Yewdj1rBig
And here's an excerpt: "In my years of teaching, I had
heard innumerable stories that shredded my heart, but I never broke down. I
taught at regional universities in rural areas of the country, my students
often first-generation college students, working multiple jobs, raising their
own kids. They brought their books to class in plastic bags. I held their
babies for them on the days when they gave their presentations and couldn’t
find a sitter. I read their essays alone in my office, my hand over my mouth. I
bolted down the hall to my department chair after one email from a student
saying she felt like she was trudging through sludge and I didn’t think she
could do it anymore. I listened to their stories about testicular cancer,
relationships gone to hell, rape. I attended sessions on how to make my office
a safe place, and put a sticker on my door saying that it was. I got wrapped up
in their lives because I saw no way around it. Universities obsess over
retention rates, so it was our duty to make sure students came to class. I knew
them, and I loved them. And I was able to hold it all together until that day
in the nearly empty building, 2:30 in
the afternoon on the last day of class before summer, when I couldn’t anymore."